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Our 3-Year Anniversary | Five Things

My husband took me to a local winery in Santa Fe, TX called Haak Winery for our 3 year anniversary last week.  I was ALL smiles when I figured out the surprise he had planned for us.  Toko isn’t much of a wine drinker so it made it THAT more special and thoughtful.  The day was a bit chilly and there weren’t any grapes growing, but the scenery was quite tranquil and beautiful.  We had an amazing talk over lunch – much needed – and some alone time without the baby.  
We’ve been together for 6 1/2 years and coming from my own personal experience, here are a few things I’ve learned from our relationship. It is work. A lot of work. Day in and day out.  But when you’re with the right person, it’s completely worth it.  What are some things that work for you?

GET UNCOMFORTABLE – Day in and day out, your daily routine can start to become VERY monotonous.  We often fall into a pitfall of “getting comfortable” the longer a relationship lasts and it sucks.  You start to take each other for granted.  You don’t try as hard.  You get complacent.  When this happens, it’s time to get uncomfortable!  Try new things with each other and have fun.  Plan a surprise. Leave a sweet note. HAVE DATE NIGHT!  You should never stop dating.  It’s always the little things that count so MAKE TIME . . .

MAKE TIME – This one is simple.  There are 24 hours in a day and you have a choice of how and who to spend it with.  If it’s important to you, you will make time.  With that being said, it’s also OK to spend some time apart.  It’s good to have alone time to decompress and appreciate your boo when he/she is not there, which leads me to BEING YOURSELF . . .

BE YOURSELF – All too often, we get so wrapped up in being ONE thing (i.e. girlfriend, mommy, wife) that we sometimes lose our identity.  Never lose yourself!  Your partner fell in love with you for the qualities you possess and the person you are so let your RAWR shine!  For me, I think I lost myself when I became a new mommy.  Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE LOVE LOVE being a mother, but that’s only one aspect of my life. Somewhere along the way, I lost myself and became sad /unhappy and that hurt our relationship.  To help our relationship, we remembered to GIVE SUPPORT . . .

GIVE SUPPORT - You are not the same person you were a year ago and neither is your partner.  Our situations change and therefore, we also change as a result of it. When this happens, embrace it and offer support to your boo.  They will appreciate it. It’s not your decision to decide what the other person should or shouldn’t do.  Whatever it is they decide, they chose to include you so be their biggest cheerleader.  Never view the relationship from a stand point of “I”; it should always be about “us.”  When you support your partner and they do the same, the relationship wins.  And, this is where I will conclude with HAVING A VOICE in the relationship . . .
HAVE A VOICE – A great relationship requires communication so speak up!  Don’t expect your significant other to read your mind. Ain’t nobody got time for that!  Express your wants/needs AND actively listen to what the other person needs from you as well.   This is a 2-way street people.  A perfect relationship doesn’t exist.  You are two completely different humans so it will be natural to disagree. Voice your opinion. Have a voice.  Disagreements and fights are natural and even healthy for the relationship. If you go to bed mad, it’s not the end of the world.  It will make for a great makeup session afterwards. The important thing is to talk it through and keep the line of communication open. 
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Comments

  2. Jenna says

    How lovely. Happy Anniversary! So cool you picked that date. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and it does take a lot of work, especially when you have kids and so much going on. Thanks for sharing your story with the world. Definitely nice to know I am not alone :).

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    • Linh says

      Totally agree. There are only so many hrs in the day and its hard trying to squeeze in everything. We try to have date night at least once a month.

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  3. JEN RAMOS says

    Hi Linh! thank you for your beautiful comment on my blog & i loved this post too! Are you on instagram?
    Your body is amazing…i’m working out to get your abs ha! Used to have those…

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    • Linh says

      Hey Jen! Yes, I’m on IG – misslvn. Thanks for the sweet compliments. Trust me, you look amazing either way. BTW-happy anniversary! I had no idea you guys were celebrating today 🙂

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